It’s not right if it’s not random so i’ll start this with some random, irrelevant thing that has nothing to do with anything lol. My #MCE is Zac Efron lol. Of course he is GORGEOUS but he is also a pretty humble dude. I’m not a celebrity stalker or anything like that but he has an amazing personality, bold, courageous, stands for something, always moving forward, etc lol. Anyways so I had to throw that in there, I don’t want to look like one of those vain people that only cares about looks lol. I should not be crushing on Zac Efron haha. Kevin knows the deal lol. Anyways so Shannon texted me a link to an article and it showed this:
But I guess she was just concerned with the pictures, while, I actually like to read the articles, too. They said he was at Tybee Island, filming for his new movie. That is basically like right up the street, dude. So I called her and said, “Get up, get your shit, we’re going to tyb..sd;f;ih.as;ghasgi….zsdh” and literally went retarded hahahaha! I couldn’t even talk straight LMAO we were dying hahahaha!
So that’s my random bit for now.
Now it gets real.
Okay so I was on my way home earlier from getting the kids. When I drive, my favorite thing to do (besides listen to music, sing, etc) is observe the people on the streets. I watch all of them. The best I can, anyways. Like, when i’m at a red light, i’ll pay attention to the people sitting at the bus stop, watch them on their phones or digging in their purses or whatever. I’ll watch people walking by, riding bikes, doing whatever it is they do. I’m a serial people watcher lol. It’s a chronic condition. I love observing people way more than I probably should lol. And when I watch people, I try to really pay attention to them. I watch their body language and facial expressions. I notice the clothes they are wearing, their hair, every detail I can. And I try to size them up, I guess. Like, I try to figure out what their deal might be. Are they happy? Sad? Married? Divorced? Have kids? Do they like their job? What sort of job might they have? Do they have friends? Just all sorts of randomness lol. Literally can’t get enough of it. So anyways, on my way home, I saw two teenage boys riding their bikes. Now, just by their body language alone, I drew up the assumption that most likely neither of them were part of a popular crowd. I mean, these are just my assumptions, i’m probably totally wrong. Anyways, they looked like they were probably best friends, two peas in a pod, do everything together, both probably curious but lean more to the cautious side. The first boy that passed seemed like he may be a little more confident than the second. He had his head a little higher and was sitting up on his bike. His posture looked like someone who might be timid but doesn’t want to lead anyone to believe he is so he was overcompensating in his posture. Anyways. And the second boy that passed was very overweight. For one, he was struggling just to ride the bike, breathing heavy. But the thing is, he was looking down at the ground and he had this look on his face that screamed “I do not want to be riding my bike on this main road. I will not make eye contact with anyone. Look down, keep peddling. Please, no one look at me.” Like i’m serious, it was so apparent. And a wave of sadness came over me. He looked like the type of guy that doesn’t want to speak up because he doesn’t want to draw attention to himself. He just wants to stand on the sidelines as much as possible, make as little of a splash as he can and just get by. And it was sad. He looked like he doubts himself, his beliefs, his abilities, his self worth, all of it. He probably takes his anger and frustration out on the people closest to him because he has nowhere else to channel it. So I imagine he probably lashes out at his siblings, if he has any, and maybe even at his parents or whoever his guardians are. Keep in mind, these are just conclusions I draw up. It’s not judging because I am not fixed in my opinions at all. I’m open to being proven wrong. But I feel things about people. And this is just the feeling I got from him based on *maybe* 4 seconds of seeing him.
I was just sad. I know it’s wildly inappropriate lol he is a minor, maybe 16 or so…. and i’m a 31 year old woman haha. But I just got the overwhelming desire to just slow the car down, smile at him and say hello haha. Just something to make him feel good, something to cheer him up and make him feel noticed. These things bother me the most. I know how teenagers can be. There’s the REALLY shitty ones who literally don’t care about anyone. They make life hell for kids like this. Then, there are the ones who pick on these kids so they can maintain some sort of authority around school. The more kids they taunt, the more strength they feel they have. It’s their own defense mechanism. Then, there are the wimps. The cowards that will chime in by laughing along or agreeing with the insults and joining in on the taunting…. because they are too chicken shit to speak up, for fear they may be the next target. I am telling you, if I see someone getting bullied…. if I hear someone mouthing off about someone…. like right now, in adulthood…. I will not put up with it. I don’t care who you are, if I see you treating someone poorly just because you can, i’m going to say something. And I wish with this mentality and the wisdom I have gained in adulthood, I wish that I could just attend highschool for a day and stand up for every single kid that gets hell from people. I would be RELENTLESSLY cracking jokes on the bullies to the point they cry. And I know that’s not the answer but I really do think that, even if they are hurting too, sometimes they just need a dose of their own medicine. They don’t understand what sort of damage they are causing to people and the only way they will is if someone does it to them. I am not one of those parents who teaches my kids to run away. If someone punches you in the face and you feel like you have the slightest chance at getting a fair shot at them, you take it. Because, if you don’t, they’re not going to stop. You don’t take shit, you don’t let people talk down to you, you don’t let people walk allover you and make your life hell. Okay, let me backtrack lol. I’m not talking about a school fight scenario where everyone has formed a circle around you and is standing there egging you on. The real courage is in knowing you have nothing to prove, and walking away. I wouldn’t encourage my kids to feed into something like that. But i’m saying, if someone just walks up on you and sucker punches you just because they can, you lay their ass out. Hands down. One clean lick to the face, lights out. I do not promote violence but I also don’t promote cowardice. I want my kids to be humble, sure. Absolutely. But I want them to be bold enough to stand up for themselves. To know that even if they get knocked down, they can get right back up. Even if they lose the fight, they can still go to school the next day with their heads held high. Bullies will NEVER learn, they will NEVER let up unless you stand up to them. The teachers WILL NOT do anything. They can’t guard you all of the time. I’m saying. You face them. They call you names, you don’t hang your head. You look them in the eyes. You don’t take alternate routes, no matter what. You face them head on, every single time. You get jumped? You walk right past them the next day. Over and over if you have to. You get hit, you hit them back. That’s just how I feel.
Our world is SO politically correct. Everyone is so offended by everything. We are turning into a world of cowards. No mettle. No heart. No honor. It makes me think of the woman caught whooping her son’s ass at the riot in Baltimore. I am genuinely shocked at the response to that. So many parents are into this new-age, progressive, positive parenting thing. And I get a lot of it, I understand it. You get more bees with honey. But if parents could spend more time disciplining their kids, they’d spend a lot less time having to correct them. And i’m sorry, there are certain situations in which I feel kids need a royal ass whooping. When they do things so foul, so inappropriate, so out of control and absurd, they need a beating. Not abuse…. but just a, “Hey. Look here.” type of thing. When done correctly, I think it is WAY more effective than simply, “Okay sweetie, tell me what’s wrong. Why would you call your teacher a cheap, two dollar whore and make sexually suggestive gestures towards her? Is there something you’re going through that I don’t know about?” Knock. It. Off. Beat. His. ASS. Then talk. Talk AFTER you have tore his little ass up lol. The world isn’t pretty. You can shelter your kids and cater to them all you want to NOW….. but when they spread their little eagle wings and fly out in the world someday, they aren’t going to know how to handle it. You can hide your kids from bullies NOW….. but bullies don’t always grow out of it. There are 80 year old bullies walking this earth, friends lol. They are going to run into some bullies at work. They’ll run into bullies at the bar. They will encounter them. And they won’t know how to handle it. It just makes me think of those two girls in the grocery store when I worked at the bar. I was minding my business, shopping for juice for the bar and talking on my phone. As they passed, I ran into a shelf….. and they TAUNTED me. I could have easily gotten away from them if I wanted to but FUCK that. I got in line behind them and they just wouldn’t stop. “She must have a black boyfriend” like are you fucking KIDDING me? All because, everything they threw at me, I threw right back at them. I wasn’t loud and out of control, I just wasn’t going to let them stand there and talk to me like that. For NO reason. Because, it’s not just about me. It’s about all of the other poor souls out there that will have to face their shit someday. And they said they’d be waiting for me in the parking lot lol. Classic. So I walked out there, head held high and I was ready to get jumped. I was mentally prepared for it. But there was no way in hell I was going to hang my head low and hide from them. I walked out and they were standing there and I said, “So I guess yall are gonna jump me now, huh?” and I kept walking towards my car. Long story short, they didn’t but they did follow me to the bar. I got out, security rushed up, THEN they tried to act like they wanted to shake something lol…. all that time they had but now that grown men are holding them back and strippers are swarming trying to get a piece of them, now they want to do something. One of them slapped one of my friends so I charged her and threw a traffic cone at her head. Probably unnecessary but the moral of the story is…… they didn’t act because they didn’t know what to expect from me. They were probably used to people shying away….. and when I didn’t, they had no idea what I was capable at that point. Pride made them follow me to my job but, still. They didn’t succeed in what they set out to do. And maybe, just maybe, they will reconsider taunting a perfect stranger.
I do care about personal safety. I’m not one of those bold people that just throws caution to the wind and puts myself in sketchy situations. But i’m not going to go out like a coward. I have nothing to prove, I have no problem walking away from people, if need be. But if I am in a situation where I know someone is not going to let up, they’re not going to leave me alone, they’re going to harass me because they think they can get away with it, i’m not putting up with it. I have a right to be here on this planet and live my life in peace. I’m not going to let people trample on me and steal my peace, invade my space and try to control my emotions, control my life. It’s just not going to happen. And I wish I could just talk to these kids and explain this to them. To help them get their confidence up so they aren’t living their lives in fear, they aren’t constantly running away. That’s a sad way to live. It’s basically people stealing their freedom, robbing their right to life, their right to be who they are and live freely and openly without fear. That just really, really bothers me. I believe in our inalienable right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness….. and I know that, throughout life, that will come under attack, somehow, someway. Whether it’s the jerk that spread rumors about you around school. the kids who poke fun at you on your way home, your obnoxious co-worker, the dude in the bar, the bitches in the grocery store, the thugs, the police, the damn government…. we’re going to come under attack at some point….. and no war has EVER been won by waving a white flag and declaring defeat. No one has ever won a war by scampering off with their tails between their legs. We need to stop raising cowards and start raising kids who stand for shit. Who stand up for themselves and don’t back down, don’t fear adversity….. they don’t necessarily welcome it but if it’s standing in their face, punching them repeatedly, they need to know to hit back. That’s all i’m saying.
Yeah, all of that because this kid on his bike looked MISERABLE. Visibly miserable. And I felt terrible for him….. I hope he loses all of that weight and gets the hottest wife ever someday lol. I’m done.